That sparked a series of powerful questions:
-> Fair… by whose standards?
-> Was the decision objectively unfair, or simply not aligned with his hopes?
-> What might his colleague be feeling about receiving the opportunity?
-> What considerations might his manager have weighed before deciding?
As he reflected, a deeper truth surfaced: his internal definition of fairness was anchored in personal preference. Fair meant what felt just to him — not necessarily what was just overall.
That insight shifted everything.
This reminded me of a beautiful definition of Dharma that I once heard from my Indic Wisdom teacher, Krishna Prakash:
"Dharma is that which supports, sustains, and enables any system."
Fairness, then, isn’t just about outcomes. It’s about perspective. It’s about what sustains the collective — even when it doesn’t immediately favour us.
As coaches, we know that even the most cherished values can become blind spots if left unexamined. The magic lies in that moment of pause, of questioning, of redefining with awareness.
Ever wondered how your values might be shaping your expectations or emotions?
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